People expect standing ovations for doing things they should be doing. That’s the kind of society we’ve become. You greet someone, that person should thank you for it. You pick up papers by the side walk, people should give you keys to the city and make you mayor. You create awareness about climate change and you should be given the Pulitzer. I mean what’s wrong with us? Do we need validation so much? When did doing the right thing suddenly become a recognition contest? I think something is really wrong with our generation.
Let me tell you what happened. A friend of mine got into a private fight with her boyfriend. She then decided to envite the whole Facebook community by posting her apology on Facebook. We’ll discuss the contents of the apology later. So she posted her apology, going on about how she should be given some credit for apologising. I mean, she posted that she deserved credit for apologising. Aren’t you supposed to apologise when you do something wrong? How is it that she deserves credit for apologising and why post a private moment for the world to see.
The Sun doesn’t ask for a standing ovation when it shines. The stars don’t ask for credit when they brighten up the sky at night but we deserve credit for doing things we should be doing. I know she is not the only one. People have this sense of entitlement so much that they don’t see that it’s destructive and annoying. Feeling entitled means you are special, you are better, superior and everyone else must just go jump right? What is it that gives people a sense of entitlement? How do we deal with them? I won’t lie, people with a sense of entitlement are usually jerks.
I mean why should you be rewarded for being a decent human being? As human beings we don’t like the ‘I’m better than everyone crowd’, its annoying. Greeting someone, helping them with their groceries, borrowing them money, doing charity and any other things are a not a campaign to show off how great and noble we are. We should do them because it’s the right thing to do. Do people still do the right thing because it’s the right thing to do? Or do they do them because they want to get likes and comments on Facebook.
A little recognition and appreciation is awesome. We all want to be seen and appreciated and that’s normal. However, that doesn’t mean we stop practising a bit of decency because no one is giving us a pat on the back. I don’t know whether it’s because of social media or how we are wired but we’ve changed. I don’t know whether it’s for the good or the worst but we have changed. We lack substance, we have little self esteem. We want to be validated by others. Maybe that’s why we want recognition for doing what we should be doing.
Moral of the post
We shouldn’t be asking or looking to get rewards for doing things we should be doing as human beings. We should do them because they are the right thing to do.
Remember, Live, Love, Learn and be Happy.